Have you ever reached a goal you thought would finally make you happy, only to discover that it didn’t? Maybe it was landing the job you’d been praying for, getting married, buying your first house, or finally making enough money that you didn’t have to worry about every little expense. You spent months, maybe even years, looking forward to that moment. You imagined how different life would be once you got there.
For a while, things probably did feel different. Then the excitement started wearing off, the responsibilities returned, and eventually, life began feeling normal again. The job you couldn’t wait to get became the job you dreaded on Monday morning. The new house needed repairs, and the financial freedom you thought you’d achieved came with an entirely new set of expenses. Before long, you were looking forward to something else.
I’ve noticed that we’re pretty good at convincing ourselves that happiness is always one more step away. If I could just get promoted, things would be better. If I could find the right person, I wouldn’t feel so lonely. A little more money would finally give me some room to breathe. There’s nothing wrong with wanting those things, but we get ourselves into trouble when we expect them to satisfy every need we have.
The problem with constantly chasing the next thing is that the finish line keeps moving. Marketing companies understand that. They sell us a version of ourselves we hope to become, whether that means feeling successful behind the wheel of a particular car or finally taking the vacation we’ve been watching everyone else enjoy. We buy the thing, enjoy it for a while, and then start looking again.
That same way of thinking can shape our relationship with Jesus. We want Him to help us become more successful, happier, or better at managing our lives. We ask for His help where we’re struggling while holding on to the areas we’d rather manage ourselves. We’ve already decided what a good life should look like, and we’re hoping He’ll help us get there.
But when I read John 2, I see Jesus doing things that challenge that approach. He meets a practical need at a wedding, confronts what’s happening in the temple, and responds to people’s belief in a way they probably wouldn’t have expected. As we work through the chapter, we have to consider whether we’re willing to follow Him when His priorities differ from ours.
Jesus came to do more than make life a little better
John 2 begins at a wedding in Cana. Jesus is there with His mother and disciples when the hosts run out of wine. Today, that might mean someone has to make an uncomfortable trip to the grocery store. In that culture, weddings were significant community celebrations that could last several days, and running out of wine would have been embarrassing for the family hosting the event.
Mary brings the problem to Jesus. After their exchange, she tells the servants to do whatever He tells them. Jesus then directs them to fill six large stone jars with water, and John includes a detail about those jars worth paying attention to:
“Now there were six stone water jars there for the Jewish rites of purification, each holding twenty or thirty gallons.” (John 2:6, ESV)
These were containers used for ceremonial purification, the washing practices associated with Jewish religious life. The servants fill them to the brim, following Jesus’ instructions. He then tells them to draw some out and take it to the master of the feast. By the time the master tastes it, the water has become wine.
And it is really good wine. The master of the feast is surprised that the bridegroom has saved it until this point in the celebration. He doesn’t know where it came from, but the servants do. John explains the significance in verse 11: through this first sign, Jesus revealed His glory, and His disciples believed in Him.
That explanation matters because it keeps us from treating the miracle as nothing more than Jesus helping a family avoid embarrassment. He does meet their need, but the sign also reveals who He is. The disciples are being given a reason to trust Him.
The purification jars invite us to think further about cleansing and the work Jesus came to do. God had given Israel practices that taught them about holiness and approaching Him. Those practices mattered, but people also needed a change within them. Through Ezekiel, God had promised His people:
“And I will give you a new heart, and a new spirit I will put within you.” (Ezekiel 36:26, ESV)
John doesn’t explicitly identify the jars as a symbol of that promise, so we shouldn’t present the connection as though he does. His stated emphasis is that Jesus revealed His glory. Still, when we read this account alongside God’s promise of inward renewal, we’re reminded that our deepest needs require something God must do in us.
That’s where our usual approach to self-improvement reaches its limits. We’re encouraged to develop better habits, organize our schedules, and become more productive. Believe me, I’m all for healthy habits. I love learning about leadership and finding ways to become more effective at what I do. Those things are useful, but they can’t accomplish everything we need.
You can become more disciplined and still be selfish. Financial success doesn’t necessarily resolve the dissatisfaction you carry, and knowing how a healthy relationship works doesn’t mean you’re loving the people closest to you well. We need God to address the attitudes and desires that keep showing up underneath our behavior. Otherwise, we can spend years managing the same problems without understanding why they keep returning.
Paul writes in Romans 12:2 that we are to “be transformed by the renewal of your mind.” He gives that instruction in response to the mercy of God, which he has spent the earlier chapters explaining. As God changes how we think, we begin to recognize His will and respond differently in everyday life. Our effort matters, but it grows out of our dependence on Him.
If you’re exhausted from trying to become the person you think God wants you to be, that distinction is worth considering. You may have tried harder, made promises, and started over more times than you can count. The answer isn’t to stop taking responsibility for your choices. It’s to recognize that you need more than another promise to do better. You need to bring the struggle to God honestly and depend on Him as you respond to what He’s teaching you.
Jesus challenges what we’ve become comfortable with
One of the things that stands out to me about John 2 is how quickly the setting changes. At the beginning of the chapter, Jesus is attending a wedding and providing wine. A few verses later, He’s in Jerusalem, driving animals out of the temple and overturning the money changers’ tables. We’re comfortable with Wedding Jesus. Temple Jesus makes us nervous.
The buying and selling had a practical explanation. People traveled considerable distances to worship in Jerusalem, and some needed to purchase animals for sacrifices. Money-changing services also helped visitors obtain the currency used for temple payments. Providing those services met real needs, but that didn’t justify turning the temple into a marketplace.
John tells us that Jesus made a whip of cords, drove out the sheep and oxen, scattered the money changers’ coins, and overturned their tables. He told the people selling pigeons to take them away and said, “do not make my Father’s house a house of trade” (John 2:16, ESV). Jesus cared about the holiness of His Father’s house. The fact that people had become accustomed to what was happening there didn’t make it acceptable.
The conversation that follows also helps us understand the event. When Jesus is challenged to demonstrate His authority, He speaks about a temple that He will raise in three days. His listeners think He means the building, but John explains that He’s talking about His body. The disciples understand this after His resurrection. The account points us toward Jesus’ identity and authority, not merely toward a lesson about managing religious activities.
That has implications for how we examine our churches, and as a pastor, I find that uncomfortable. I’ve spent enough time in ministry to see how easily churches can become more concerned with maintaining programs, protecting traditions, and keeping everything running smoothly than remembering why those things exist. Healthy systems help people serve effectively. But when protecting the system becomes more important than loving the people it was created to serve, something has gone wrong.
I’ve encountered people who have experienced the consequences. Some were hurt by someone in church leadership and felt that protecting the church’s reputation mattered more than addressing what happened. Others asked sincere questions about scripture and were treated as though their questions were a threat. For those people, the place where they hoped to find encouragement became a place they were afraid to return to.
The temple account isn’t directly about every form of modern church hurt. We need to respect what John is describing rather than making the passage stand for anything we want to criticize. But Jesus’ concern for His Father’s house gives us good reason to examine what we’ve built around our worship. Our traditions and arrangements should never become so important that we refuse to consider whether they’re serving their purpose.
The same examination belongs in our personal lives. If Jesus looked at my calendar, would He recognize the priorities I say matter most? Have I become so busy doing things for Him that I’m neglecting time with Him? Those questions are uncomfortable when your life revolves around ministry, because the activities themselves can look like evidence that everything is fine.
The problem can develop in other areas too. A career can become the thing that determines whether we feel valuable. A relationship can carry expectations that no person could reasonably meet. When we begin depending on something to give us the identity, security, or ultimate direction that belongs in our relationship with God, a good thing has taken a place it shouldn’t have.
That doesn’t mean every difficulty should be interpreted as Jesus overturning a table in our lives. Losing a job, struggling in a relationship, or going through a painful experience doesn’t give us enough information to announce exactly what God is doing. We need to be careful with those claims, especially when we’re making them about someone else’s suffering.
But when scripture clearly confronts something we need to change, we have a responsibility to respond. We can explain why our situation is different, minimize what we’re doing, or acknowledge that we’ve allowed something to become more important than it should be. Following Jesus includes allowing Him to challenge decisions and habits we may have spent years defending.
Knowing about Jesus and learning to follow Him
John 2 ends with people responding to the signs Jesus is performing in Jerusalem. From a ministry perspective, things appear to be going well. People are believing in His name, which sounds like exactly the response we’d hope to see. Then John adds this:
“But Jesus on his part did not entrust himself to them, because he knew all people.” (John 2:24, ESV)
John goes on to explain that Jesus knew what was in people. Their response to the signs didn’t tell the whole story of what was happening in their hearts. We aren’t given a complete explanation of every person’s faith, but we are shown that Jesus understands people more deeply than their outward response reveals.
That should cause us to think carefully about our own relationship with Him. We have access to more Christian teaching than most generations could have imagined. We can listen to sermons while driving, watch Bible studies online, and download enough books to keep ourselves occupied for years. Those resources can help us understand scripture, but having access to them doesn’t automatically mean we’re growing.
It’s possible to know a great deal about Jesus while keeping what we know at a distance from how we live. We can explain His teaching without allowing it to challenge us. We can become familiar with the language of faith and still resist trusting Him with something that matters to us. That’s a distinction I understand through an experience from my own life.
What I learned while searching for my father
For much of my life, I didn’t really know my biological father. He wasn’t part of my life growing up, and that left me with questions I couldn’t easily answer. As I got older, I began searching for information about him. I wanted to understand who he was and make sense of things I’d spent years wondering about.
Eventually, I discovered quite a bit. I found records, pieced together details about his life, and learned things about his history that had been unknown to me. Some of what I discovered was difficult to process. I even found information about his death.
And believe me, I searched. When you’ve spent that much of your life wondering about someone, each new piece of information feels as though it might help you understand what you’ve been missing. But the records couldn’t answer the question I most wanted answered: What was he like?
I could learn where he had been and find out about things that had happened in his life. I couldn’t discover what it would have been like to sit across from him and have a conversation. The information couldn’t tell me what made him laugh, how he treated people in everyday situations, or what kind of relationship we might have had. I knew more about my father, but those facts couldn’t give me the relationship I’d missed.
I think about that distinction when I consider how we approach Jesus. Learning about Him matters. We need to understand His teaching, the world in which He lived, and what scripture reveals about Him. But the person we’re learning about calls us to follow Him, and that requires a response beyond collecting information.
We come to know Him as we trust what He says and put it into practice. That includes bringing our questions to Him, depending on Him when we don’t know what to do, and obeying when we do know. The teaching is meant to shape the relationship and the way we live.
Putting what we know into practice
I shared something on social media recently that created quite a reaction. It was something along the lines of, “Some of you don’t need another Bible study. You need to forgive someone.” And man, some people were upset. A few seemed to think I was suggesting that studying the Bible wasn’t important.
That wasn’t my point. I love studying scripture, and it’s essential to developing a deeper relationship with God. But if you already understand what Jesus teaches about forgiveness and know there’s someone you need to forgive, another study can become a way to delay responding. You can keep learning about something you’ve already decided not to do.
James addresses that problem directly:
“But be doers of the word, and not hearers only, deceiving yourselves.” (James 1:22, ESV)
He’s warning us that we can hear the word and mislead ourselves about the effect it’s having on our lives. We feel that we’ve accomplished something because we attended, listened, or learned. Those things matter, but the teaching also calls for a response. If we repeatedly avoid that response, we need to be honest about what’s happening.
A useful way to examine our growth is to consider how we’re treating people. Are we becoming more patient with someone who frustrates us? When we recognize that we’ve been wrong, are we willing to admit it and make things right? We don’t need to have mastered every part of the Christian life, but what we’re learning should be influencing the decisions we make.
Our obedience doesn’t earn us a relationship with God. We begin with His grace, and we continue to need that grace as we grow. But trusting Him affects how we respond to what He says. Jesus makes that connection Himself: “If you love me, you will keep my commandments” (John 14:15, ESV).
That gives us a more useful way to think about spiritual maturity than measuring how much information we’ve accumulated. Someone may struggle to explain a theological term and still faithfully practice what Jesus has taught them. Another person may explain it thoroughly while refusing to let it affect a difficult relationship. Understanding and obedience belong together, and we need to pay attention when we’re separating them.
What part of your life have you asked Jesus to leave alone?
When I read John 2 as a whole, I’m struck by how much it challenges our expectations of Jesus. At the wedding, He reveals His glory through a sign that meets a real need. In the temple, He acts with an authority that people question. At the end of the chapter, we’re reminded that He understands what’s happening in people’s hearts, including what others can’t see.
We’re right to ask for His help. We need His wisdom when making decisions and His peace when life becomes difficult. There’s nothing wrong with bringing practical needs to Him. But following Him also means being willing to reconsider how we live when His teaching challenges us.
We’re comfortable asking Jesus to help us accomplish our plans. We’re less comfortable allowing Him to change them. We may trust Him with our eternal salvation while treating our career as an area we’ll handle ourselves. We may agree with His teaching about forgiveness while making an exception for the person who hurt us.
I understand how easy it is to live that way. Becoming more frustrated with ourselves won’t resolve it, and another complicated plan for spiritual improvement can give us more to manage without addressing what we’re resisting. We need to be honest about a simpler question: Am I willing to let Jesus lead me when following Him requires a change I don’t want to make?
You don’t have to figure out how to change everything by tomorrow morning. Spiritual maturity takes time, and familiar struggles don’t disappear just because we’ve recognized them. God’s grace gives us room to acknowledge where we are and take responsibility for our next step without pretending we’ve already arrived.
If something has come to mind while you’ve been reading, begin there. Talk to God about the priority you’ve been protecting or the conversation you’ve been avoiding. Read what scripture says about it, and consider what a faithful response would look like in your circumstances. If you need help working that out, speak with someone who will listen carefully and tell you the truth with kindness.
The Jesus who provided for a wedding also confronted what was wrong in His Father’s house. His care for people includes both provision and correction. We can trust Him with the parts of our lives where we need help, including the parts where we’ve resisted it.
So I’ll leave you with the question I’ve been asking myself: What part of your life have you asked Jesus to leave alone? You don’t need an impressive answer. You need an honest one, and a willingness to begin following Him there.
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How to Let Jesus Take Over the Areas You’ve Been Holding Back
Recognizing that something needs to change doesn’t always tell you what to do next. That’s especially true when the thing you’re struggling with has a legitimate place in your life. Your career matters. So do your relationships and your responsibilities at church. The difficulty comes when one of those things begins receiving more of your attention, affection, or trust than it should.
This guide is meant to help you examine that without turning the process into another source of pressure. You don’t need to overhaul your life in seven days or work through every question perfectly. Take time to be honest with God and identify an area that needs attention. Then choose a response you can actually begin.
